In many ways, life itself is a self-fulfilling prophecy. A person reared amidst harsh criticism and ridicule will grow up believing he is worthy of this type of treatment. And being creatures of habit, we easily adapt to our environments–even if that environment is unhealthy. For many who have experienced traumatic or abusive childhoods, this adaptation is a survival mechanism.
The insecurities we develop as children become so deeply rooted in who we are, teaching us to “survive” by employing such emotional responses as avoidance, dependency, or violence. And rather than addressing these painful issues, we alienate those around us, distancing from real intimacy and healthy relationships with others. [Read more…]